Have you been impacted by words? Not sure? Think about it this way. You are in the checkout line at the grocery store and the clerk says “that baby must keep you up all night; I can see the bags under your eyes.” How would this make you feel? Now think about how different you would feel if the clerk said “I can see how much you love and care for your baby”. You are likely to feel uplifted by the latter versus feeling the need to complain to a friend or your spouse after the first comment. This draws you into a negative mindset and thus you gravitate towards those happenings over the positive ones.
Now picture this, say you woke up and said to yourself “I am going to have a great day today!” Now you have shifted your focus to seeking out the positive events such as good traffic and you getting to your appointment early, scoring the best parking spot, or finding out you got your morning coffee at a discount! Think about how these small events impact the rest of your day. Are you lingering on that negative comment or are you seeking out those small positive moments?
Let’s now apply this concept to pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum. When we change our way of thinking, we change our mindset and attract these positive things towards us. Now obviously, pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood don’t always go as planned, even with a positive mindset. If we work to prepare for the unexpected, we are still concentrating on what we want and like within the situation.
This is a way of life. It is simple, yet not always easy to adopt. It takes consistent practice and a certain amount of control. Start with small, intentional changes and it will soon become habit. Small changes like these can make big differences!
Here are some suggestions:
-Create positive affirmations and hang them up somewhere you will see them frequently.
-Be intentional with your words, focusing on what you want versus what you don’t want.
-Don’t take things personally; let negativity from others roll off your sleeve.
-Always do your best and keep moving forward.
For further reading, explore The Law of Attraction and "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.